Scratching the Marital Itch

When it comes to experiencing love in your marriage it’s crucial that you discover how your spouse feels loved. After you’ve taken our intimacy interview you and taken some time to dive into conversation with your spouse- you’ll have insight into what makes your spouse “feel loved”.  For some husbands a home cooked meal and a clean and organized home may make him feel secure and loved.  Others may not mind the dust or chaos or dining on a frozen pot pie, but feel extremely loved when their wife encourages him with her words.

See, my husband LOVES having his back scratched. I’ve learned over the years that if I want to have a healthy marriage, I’ll be a great back scratcher.  What if my I were scratching my husband’s back and he was trying to direct me to “the spot” yet, I kept missing it. When I was through, it may have been a nice gesture, but he would have been left unsatisfied and possibly even frustrated. Love and marriage works the same. You may feel that you are “loving” your spouse- but are you scratching their “itch”. Is what your doing communicating love to him or her?  If not, you’ll both be left frustrated. Take time to understand your husband or wife and communicate love in the way that they hear it best. Your efforts won’t go unnoticed.